Divorcing a narcissist can be challenging and anything but straightforward. You may feel overwhelmed and confused, even though you know it’s the right choice for your future.
Understanding what to expect can help you better prepare for the difficulties ahead.
Recognizing a narcissistic personality disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition recognized by the following traits:
- The belief in superiority over others
- Grandiosity
- A constant need for admiration and attention
- Lack of empathy towards others
- Sense of entitlement
- Arrogance
- Can’t handle criticism
- They often disparage people they think are inferior to them and are obsessed with success and power.
However, it’s easy to understand how people find themselves in a relationship with a narcissist. They can appear charming and confident. Furthermore, they engage in “love bombing,” showering their partner with compliments, attention and affection. It’s part of their controlling behavior, but during the early stages, their true nature is hard to identify.
Attempting to divorce a narcissist can be complex and emotionally draining. They may try to control their spouse, children, and anyone close to the situation. A narcissist enjoys creating chaos through:
- Gaslighting
- Playing the victim
- Trying to ruin their partner’s reputation
- Verbal abuse
- Humiliation
Practicing self-care and ensuring your children’s and your own well-being is imperative. It’s also essential to be patient, calm, and composed. Set boundaries and stick to them. Be sure to document all of your interactions so you have evidence of everything they say and do.
You will also want to work with someone who understands the complexities of divorcing a narcissist. They can advocate for you and protect your interests.
