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Tips for telling your spouse you want a divorce

On Behalf of | Jul 11, 2024 | Divorce

If you are the one deciding to divorce, you will have to let your spouse know at some point. You should probably do it relatively soon after you have decided. However, sometimes it pays to wait until you have got yourself organized and put some money aside to get you through the next few months.

Here are a few ways to improve the timing of breaking the news to them:

Put safety first

If your spouse is likely to attack you, smash the kitchen up or try and run away with your child the moment you tell them you want a divorce, then you need to think very carefully. As eager as you may be to tell them, you need to put safety first. In cases like this, you might need to get you and your children to a safe place and only let your spouse know from a safe distance, or even once you have a protective court order in place.

Even if you know your spouse won’t do something like that, you still need to consider safety. For example, telling them while they are driving is a terrible idea, as it could distract them and cause them to lose control of the vehicle.

Make it clear your decision is made

You need to be clear that this is the end. If you use weak language you may give your spouse the idea that they still have a chance to get you to change your mind. That will only cause things to drag on longer than need be.

Don’t ruin the date

Be careful which date you choose. Don’t do it on the same day as your child’s birthday, Christmas or your sister’s wedding, as people may forever remember that date for the wrong reasons.

You might also want to learn more about how the divorce process works before telling them, so you have a better idea of the next steps after you break the news.


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